Hi friends! I've not been around too much lately, sorry about that - but I wanted to share a twitter thread I wrote about autism that's going a little bit viral. This is all the stuff I wish I had known when I was a kid - learning it saved me, and if it helps any of you I'll be so happy.
reasons why I think my lack of social skills was itself a social skill while i was in school:
if people weren't bluntly insulting me, sealioning me, or getting physically violent, i frequently didn't realize that they were being assholes toward me.
so my emotional state was unaffected and i came across as nonchalantly and confidently telling them to fuck off all the time. 👌
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"i have a conflict, and could use help" (this could probably use more details and variations)
"i'm struggling, and could use help" (same)
I'm not sure that all of these need UI elements, but possibly nomenclature? like +/~/-, for emotions/mood/etc.
me at midnight: i definitely took my night medicines
me at 4 a.m.: no i didn't
Gamers are not cancelled anymore. In fact, gamers just got renewed. Congrats, gamers!
hey, the blood moon is cool
but you know what would be more cool?
two blood moons. thats right, i propose we split the moon in half so that more cool space events happen. not because it is easy, but because it will look sick as hell
So, uh, it turns out there's no medical reason at all for people who menstruate to stop taking oral contraceptives 7 days out of every 28.
Apparently the guy who invented the things thought the Pope would be more likely to approve if the pills included a "window" to match the body's "natural flow". (Hint: he still didn't approve.)
the blood moon rises once again. be careful, link!
i can see the moon clearly out of a window in my house 🎉
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how do i train myself out of snark as a default mode and replace it with sincerity??
snark-as-default was a necessary coping mechanism a long time ago (online and offline) and it is neither necessary nor helpful now. it's actually detrimental at this point to my interpersonal relationships.
it was a very good thing for me to come to the understanding of love not as an emotion but as a deep and continuing commitment to assisting another person realize their life's purpose. the desire to choose persons in this way over and over is different from an emotion. emotions are outside of conscious control, and I'm unaware of mine, but i consciously choose these commitments again and again.
coming to understand that i have a gigantic block between my emotions and my cognitions has made so much of my past struggles with therapists and fellow humans make sense.
i am literally unaware of my emotions unless they are "literally sobbing," "seething rage," "unbridled joy," "paralyzing boredom" or "panic attack." which means that most of the time I'm not aware of my emotions at all.
meds, psychiatrist (-) Show more
how does one say to their psychiatrist "i like you as a person but you need to be better at your job, my spouses are really angry at you for continually forgetting to write the prescription for the medication that enables my having better relationships with everyone"
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at my last appointment, where i told him i was out of my ADHD medication, he said that he would immediately send the prescription to the pharmacy.
an hour after that appointment, i spoke to the pharmacist and learned that he didn't send it. the pharmacy (bless them) attempted multiple times to contact him and he didn't respond until 5 days after my appointment. so it took 8 days to get my med.
i love that mixed in with the dozens of countries gained their Independence in the last 100 years is San Marino 🇸🇲 which became independent in 301 AD from the Roman Empire
me: I'm just glad I finally have a word for it - "parasocial friendship." It's weird to feel like you know someone, like you *really* know someone, and to feel like they should know you too, and then to realize they wouldn't recognize you on the street. It's really just you taking what pieces they give you about themselves, then filling in the rest with your own personality Jurassic Park style to make a really fleshed-out imaginary friend.
Twitch streamer: haha yeah that's a long comment