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A day with no obligations. Slept til 2. Took a bath. Took a shower. Ate a sandwich. Played a game until I got bored of it.

Skipping a friend's thanksgiving dinner tonight for no reason other than I don't want to socialize.

My partner is in Boston doing an art show in collaboration with a kind and famous comedian, and I didn't go because I thought I had a thing.

When it turned out I didn't I couldn't find it in myself to overrule that decision.

Feeling empty.

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@mykola awww :c *offers tea and zir digital presence*

@dzuk thanks friend. I wish it wasn't like this every day.

I regret not going to Boston, it would have been neat, but I am just so tired. I need to rest, I can't seem to get rest.

I've been hacking on a side project and that's been fun, but there's just way more work ahead of me than behind me and I don't have the wherewithal to just sit down and press the attack.

@mykola No obligations sounds good. We all need slow days to spend in isolation, doing nothing productive. It's too hard to be "on" all the time. It's too hard to have an endless to-do list.

Having nothing to do is nice.

@decis it is but I end up here every day, and I'm starting to feel like I'm opting out of my own life. Just unsure how to address it.

@mykola :blobheart: Why do brains do what they do?

It sounds like you know this avenue you're on pretty well - these well-meaning gestures of self-care not quite reaching the place that craves care.

I wonder if your inner tiredness is asking for a different path, some other means of being seen and heard and cared-for, and awarded rest.

I wonder if the quenchless need for rest comes from a vigilance on some part of you - a night watchman always on duty. Can it be comforted?


@compostablespork this sounds exactly right. Some poor part of my brain is being ignored, is not getting what it needs. I just don’t get how to identify it. I’ll reflect more on this.

@mykola I'm really impressed by this book, The Body Keeps the Score, by Bessel Van Der Kolk. I'd had it recommended years ago, then forgot until someone on the fediverse this week brough it up and I finally started it.

I was expecting more woo-woo and less neuroscience. He shows a lot of brain scan images. There's a lot to process here and I don't have any great advice but I'm ever amazed at the complexity of our brains and experiences and our abilities to heal and grow. I believe in you! 💚