I particularly remember my year in Japan, where everyone played the gender game more aggressively even than in the US.
"Men are like this, women are like that" is just a common every day conversation, because that seems to be how gender mostly works. And I always always always changed the subject, because these cliches never really spoke to me.
@mykola The "storyness" (to converge your two lines of thought tonight) of gender is so much more visible in cultures that do gender differently than the way we were raised. I think of being in Togo in my 20's - and how as a foreigner I kept being grouped with men, even though I was happiest with women. But in so many ways that didn't compute for my hosts (language, education, presumed status). Meanwhile it was scandalous to speak to men alone. So a "sexual" woman but not a real woman, I guess.
@compostablespork yes! I think this jumped out for me when I was living in Japan. "Men are like X, women are like Y" often a subject of conversations, and while it always made me uncomfortable there were times when it was also just a cultural difference, and I was like, well no, not in america.
but that's weird that I would speak up for America's gender views but not my own, huh?
@mykola Me and my American cohorts did the same. This was the early 90's and we were busy making American sound like the utopia of gender equality and like it was perfectly acceptible to be out gay everywhere. We all knew we were overselling the point but the contrast was so stark it was hard not to.
I also had great fun showing the most sexist guys on our staff I could drive a truck.