Therapy is great, pass it on!
@mykola a trailer for weirder.earth disguised as the trailer for Yet Another X-Files Movie, except that mulder and scully are investigating rumours of a social network for cryptids:
scully: what are you doing?
mulder, dead serious: i'm "shitposting", scully.
scully, rolling her eyes: you are making this up.
mulder: no, this is how i signal to the other weird-earthers that i'm cool, you know, one of them. see? already a hit, one of them sent me a steve buscemi image.
Instances should record dramatic over-the-top trailers for people considering joining.
"In a world... that's... a little bit weirder..."
What would y'all put on such a thing?
"Every intention act is a Magickal Act."
-- Aleister Crowley
Blocking a troll? Abjuration.
Call to action? Conjuration.
Weather app? Divination.
Power tie? Enchantment.
Artistic expression? Evocation.
Brave face? Illusion.
Learn to spot their spells, build up your resistance.
Learn to understand your own, build up your craft.
You have the power within you to create your own reality.
I am the tale I tell myself.
We are the tales we tell each other.
sensory overload Show more
Came into the office today after spending most of this week sick and working from home. There's a loudspeaker that could fill an auditorium set up in the small room where I work for some sort of presentation. There's a ton of crowd noise. There are sirens outside. I want to crawl under a rock, but then I remember this is just what the world is like. :(
Politics, Deplatforming, Debate Show more
I just went ahead and wrote up my thoughts on "Debate me!" and the Groundhog Day hell of waking up to "Hey have you heard these nazi ideas yet you should really debate them on their merits." literally every fucking day.
Hey all, hopefully this fixes the sidekiq issues. Any instance admins out there know why my sidekiq might be clogging up periodically?
Death, mourning Show more
At my grandfather-in-law’s wake, taking a short break from the five hour receiving line.
I only knew him for a few short years, but he was one of those people so enormous and generous of spirit that I don’t remember not knowing him.
I’ve lost people before - grandparents, an aunt - but somehow this one feels different. Steve didn’t seem human, to me, but almost a force of nature.
I feel like a river or a mountain has vanished and I can’t quite comprehend it.
There are not always easy answers and I’m sorry that this situation unfolded as it has. @shadowfirebird i hope you find a place where you’re happy.
NK Jemisin writes beautifully about how hard it is to find a just solution when a whole culture is predicated on oppression. It makes us all do things to survive and protect ourselves that we would otherwise not do.
MH, triggers Show more
Is it so much to ask to just not get bombarded with negative emotions? Is it so much to ask to just get a day where I'm not swimming furiously to tread water? Does this get easier?
I guess we can't control the world, and I'm getting better at controlling my reactions to it. It's just... fuck. I'm so sad and tired all of a sudden.
MH, triggers Show more
This comes right after I just left a facebook group that I helped found many years ago. It turned into a cesspool of brogrammers laughing at me for suggesting that could maybe do things a little bit differently.
Again, no meltdown.
But I'm feeling a lot of pain right now. I don't like it.
MH, triggers Show more
realizing that one of my biggest triggers is feeling silenced. Having someone barge into my conversation with their attempt to correct how I'm explaining something complicated to someone has really set me off.
They insist it's totally reasonable to do it, but I strongly disagree. It leaves me with no recourse but to just shut up until they're done saying whatever they want to say then trying to salvage my original thread.
No meltdown, though, which is nice.
politics, interactions Show more
Someone in a tech group I belong to shared a link to a medium post written by the Chick-fil-A team.
(They're an American fast food chain whose leadership supports gay marriage bans and other horrible shit)
I hate to be that guy every time but I insisted that we should be ostracizing, not celebrating, developers that choose to enrich people like that.
Eventually I'm just going to get kicked out of every group I'm in, I suspect. People hate critical thought, a lot.
Hey I posted a gut reaction on the wil wheaton thing this morning and I apologize.
The fact is he hurt trans folks and it’s entirely up to them whether they want to welcome him into a space that they love.
Intentions don’t matter, actions do. And it’s certainly not my place to tell anyone to get over it.
I respect wil for his mental health advocacy - but he didn’t handle this with grace, and it’s not up to folks he hurt to just shut up and accept it.
Thanks to those who helped me grok it.
Alright, I get that the wilw thing is a touchy subject. I get that it didn’t happen on this instance. I get that I’m not fully informed. I’ll suspend my own judgment until I can learn more.
But: we can’t treat mistakes as the same thing as abuse. From where I’m sitting that’s what this looks like.
If I’m missing something, please help me see it.