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to those who know me from elsewhere 

Hello. You're probably going to learn things about me that I've never mentioned anywhere else before.

Know that I will not let you say anything hurtful about these things, in _any_ space; not just this space, but other spaces too. Particularly those where I wield the banhammer, but also in all spaces where i wield the blockhammer.

This is primarily a personal space, but it's also a space where I'm trying to be more open about the things that make my life possible and bearable.

I am weird. Please respect this.

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fuck it, i'm done hiding 

i've been hesitant to talk about this on here for... over 2 and a half years, now. maybe even longer...

but i'm done hiding... i'm done with not talking about a thing that gives me strength, gives me life, gives me the ability to cope with what this world is doing...

i've spent too long living in fear...

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personal meta, pinned post 

Switching to locked.

The mental place I'm in right now... I need a space to explore it that's... safer... more curated... a little smaller.

I don't know if this is permanent, but... for now...

The research was fundamentally flawed and should not be used as evidence that one group is better than the other. It does, however, highlight the problem of biased research that stigmatises everything about us.

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There has been a lot of research about autistics over the years, but this one really took the cake! 🍰

Find out what happened when researchers attempted to compare the moral compass of autistic and non-autistic people... (1/2)

#actuallyautistic #autism #neurodivergence #comic #art #MastoArt

how to survive hot summers 

with temps surpassing 40º in the UK and my European friends woefully unprepared to deal with hotter and hotter summers, I thought I'd share how we do it back home.

- Change your wardrobe. Don't wear jeans or thick, tight clothing in summer. Light colours help, but it's less important than the fabric being loose and breathable. Imagine you get a gust of wind; can you feel the wind? Linen fabric and synthetic activewear are great for this.

- Cover all your skin when going out into the sun, either with loose breathable clothing, or sunscreen.

- "But I'm only going to the tram" – if you don't like dying of melanoma, sunscreen yourself before walking under the radiation of the nuclear deathstar in the sky.

- Wear a summer hat and/or sunglasses.

- Always be sipping. Doesn't matter if you feel thirsty or not, carry water bottles everywhere, fill them on taps, sip often. If you don't the symptom isn't necessarily thirst; it's feeling tired, sluggish, brainfog etc., eventually sunstroke.

- Learn how to make hydrating serum (1L water, 20g sugar, 5g salt). In case someone has sunstroke give them serum; it hits faster than pure water. (also good for other forms of dehydration like stomach issues etc.)

- Tea and coffe hydrate you, even accounting for diuretic effect. Alcohol dehydrates; if drinking alcohol, drink at least the same amount of water with it.

- Give up not sweating. Sweating is good. It's a very efficient evaporative cooling system (that's why you need breathable clothing, and sipping water).

- Cold meals, refrigerated fruit and ice drinks are great. Counter-intuitively, hot drinks cool you down too, by hyping up the sweat system. Same goes for hot-spicy food. (this literally cools you down, look it up.)

- **edit**: couple people reminded that sweat leads to loss of salt too, and if you just drink water that won't fix it. this is a real consideration, add some salty things to your day if the day is so hot that you're sweating a lot.

- Don't go outside when the sun is high. Don't eat in outside tables when the sun is high. Don't go to parks, pools or beaches when the sun is high. Wait until the deathstar isn't killing you.

- Lower your expectations of productivity. It's the apocalypse, fuck work. Procrastinate in the hot hours. Kill time. Nap. Implement the siesta as an institution.

- The buildings here are more prepared for cold weather than hot. You might want to invest in good fans, or even cold floors. High ceilings are fresher. Buildings with real solid walls that go down into the ground are cooler. Light-coloured roofs and walls are cooler. You can put wet towels in front of fans for a cooling effects, or get into houseplants; look up "evaporative cooling" or "swamp cooler" for design ideas.

- The higher the air humidity %, the less effective is sweating at cooling you. Be extra careful on high-humidity high-temp days.

- summer nights can be surprisingly chilly. don't get caught unprepared in your super-breathable, breezy hot girl look during a temp drop with rain and wind outside 3am.

Here’s your semi-regular reminder that your alt text should describe what’s in the image, based on the purpose of it.

If you are sharing a screenshot of a funny post, write out the text from the image, not “screenshot from tumblr”.

If you are sharing a histogram with the latest covid number, share the most important values or takeaways or a link to the data, not just “histogram with covid numbers”.

Otherwise blind and low vision screen reader users still don’t get the same info.

trans, pride, a request 

Pride month starts tomorrow, and to trans folks, I am urgently requesting you to find some joy this month.

I realize this sounds really flowery and empty. Maybe this isn't the top priority, maybe it feels like it's making yourself feel better in lieu of action.
Regardless, I am still directly and sincerely asking this of you. It doesn't need to be gender-related or a big thing.

But we're fighting an existential threat. Please experience what it is we're fighting for.

Hi, I'm a professional storyteller, and here's today's PSA:

Unless the storyteller complains, your kids didn't do anything wrong. We are fine with wriggling, giggling, lying down, and whispering. If you tell them off after the performance, you kill the magic right there.

Kids wiggle. They ask questions, and comment on the stories. It's part of storytelling. Don't discipline them unless I ask for help.

#StorytellingPSA #storytelling #children

food, looking for ideas 

What sort of vegetables would you put in a curry? Looking to mix things up.

two women just walked past me and i heard one of them say "i'd follow you to hell but i wish you'd stop going there"

Kind words directed at the reader 

You're good enough. You're valuable and you matter.

I just wrote this to someone directly and I thought that more people would benefit from reading it. I hope I made your day just a little brighter. You deserve it.

On that note, please try to be kind to yourself because you deserve to be treated with kindness. You're good enough. You're valuable and you matter.

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PSA, if someone asks you for contact info (e.g. a phone number) of someone you know, the correct response is "I can't give that to you, but I can give them yours".

It's efficient and adds no round-trips, it's privacy friendly, it's non-awkward and it's social engineering resistant. It's a universally good rule.

And the corollary, of course: Don't ask someone for another person's contact info - ask them to pass on yours.

To UK academics (students and staff).

⚠ If you're offered work marking in the next months, please say no!

It's likely an attempt to break our marking and assessment boycott, our most effective industrial action to avoid threatened pay cuts.

Please boost if you have UK followers.

#ucu #ucurising #academicchatter

always trust the polycule sysadmin over your work's sysadmin

polyamory, gaming, sad mood 

Thinking about how games that have relationships and wedding-like events assume and assert that 2 is the only magic number...

Thinking about how much my partners both mean to me, and that my magic number is 3. For some people, this might be even higher...

Thinking about the sadness that comes from knowing that my gaming life is not allowed to reflect my emotional life...

John Carmack being Fashie 

Whelp. Fuck John Carmack. I was willing to overlook him working for Meta. But not this.

update: yeah man. I’m sorry, but I’m not entirely buying your radical centrism defense. Not this year.

https://www.pcgamer.com/doom-co-creator-john-carmack-is-headlining-a-toxic-and-proud-sci-fi-convention-that-rails-against-woke-propaganda/

#news #videogames #gross

Infosec 

I looked into this business of apps and websites reading your clipboard. The short story is, wipe your clip after you paste something sensitive. I wish I'd known this before. https://avoidthehack.com/how-secure-is-your-copied-text

So my tool that I'm making is being made with Game Maker. Game Maker doesn't have built in Text To Speech capabilities, so I hired someone to make a DLL for GameMaker so GMS2 games can now work with NVDA, SAPI, JAWS, and a few others I never heard of! If you use GameMaker, check it out since it's licensed under LPGL! Also tell the developer they did good because they did!

https://github.com/Gannio/GMSTolkTalk

#GameDev #A11y #GameMaker #GMS2

message to cis people uncomfortable with minors taking hormones 

Unfriendly reminder that as someone who had to wait until I was an adult to transition, I have no childhood. The nostalgia for high school you all take for granted doesn't exist for people who didn't get to be themselves. Transitioning in childhood is a blessing, not a curse.

The fear you have about a cis person accidentally transing themselves and what it'd feel like? That's exactly how trans kids who can't transition feel.

@troublewithwords @SingingNala I can't repeat this often enough but they are bloody horrible for many people who can actually see the characters too. I *hate* it when people do this.

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