Gratitude lists not working for you? You're not the problem.

This essay said some things I needed to hear at a time when I really needed to hear them. I'm putting this out there in case someone else needs to hear them, too.

@Fritillaria2 this one is also really good, thanks! and yes, "Gratitude Industrial Complex" is a great and useful phrase.

@twistylittlepassages That was an excellent article, and it reminded me of my annoying-positive-but-harmless therapist who could never finish a statement of commiseration without a "buuuuut..."

I truly, deeply hate hate hate gratitude and positive thinking exercises. The Gratitude Jar? Wow, just put one little itty bitty note of gratitude in everyday? Which, of course, I couldn't do because I was a *failure*, wasn't I? 🙄

No, I say to my past self. You tried it; it wasn't for you. That's okay.

@Fritillaria2 oh, ugh. that sounds like a recipe for feeling worse about yourself if I've ever heard one. and then you have this jar of bits of paper you don't want to just throw out, but do you really ever feel like going back through the jar? no. I don't blame you!

@twistylittlepassages Definitely highlights the danger of one-size-fits-all approaches to something as personal and intricate as mental health. I once had a therapist suggest keeping a worry journal for my OCD, but I found that it made me spiral into a never ending nightmare of worries. Interestingly, though, at this moment in my life, writing down my fears helps me a lot. I don't let them multiply; it just gives me perspective.

@twistylittlepassages Different things work for different people, and even for the same person at different times. What matters, I guess is just: does it seem to be helping?

@twistylittlepassages oh i like this. can't fix what we stuff in a hole and pretend isn't happening

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